Meet Me Where I Am

Meet Me Where I Am is written for a younger version of me who struggled with feeling undesirable because of my vaginismus. It exists in defiance of all the people who told me that they couldn’t date someone they, in their words, “couldn’t be intimate with” when I informed them that I was physically incapable of vaginal penetration. It draws on my experiences sexting friends to reinforce my right to my boundaries and defines intimacy as far more than inserting a penis into a vagina. It invites players to enforce their own boundaries while exploring emotional and physical intimacy. It reminds players that they do not need to be “fixed” to enjoy their bodies.

The game is played in four parts: Safety, Dark Talk, Silent Communication and Aftercare with a second discussion of safety and limits at the start of Silent Communication as well. In Safety, players establish their boundaries and go over their safewords and any other safety tools they use. In Dark Talk, players invoke the feelings of sexting and sharing their secret desires with the dark by sitting facing away from each other while negotiating a sex scene. In Silent Communication, players practice non-verbally asking for and giving or refusing consent while exploring each others’ bodies, demonstrating how they want to be touched, and paying attention to their partner(s) reactions. And in Aftercare, players process their emotions, check in with each other, and decompress together.

Thanks to Ryan Khan for helping to drag this out of me.

Content Warnings:

Meet Me Where I Am contains sexual themes and involves descriptions of intimate and potentially sexual acts as well as physical touch.

What’s Included:

• An 11 page book
• A list of prompts
• A plain text document